The 8 Paces

Winner of the APAC Insider Australian Enterprise Awards 2022 & 2024. Are you exhausted from living in the shadow of a loved one's addiction? I know the hell you're living in. For me, it was a volatile Molotov cocktail of my son's addiction and my own reactive behaviours. A constant cycle of hospital and prison stints. The worry, the rage, the fear, the shame—it's a heavy load that feels impossible to carry. But what if you could flip it? What if you could take all that dark energy and use it to transform your life, without abandoning your loved one? The 8 Paces is a powerful, playful, and non-judgmental guide, your constant companion, showing you how to reclaim your life. Drawing on the raw, unfiltered truth of my own hellish journey with my son's addiction, this book provides a powerful, clear, and brutally honest guide to harnessing your pain. Forget passive coping; this is about flipping the negativity, unlocking your inner strength, and transforming your darkest energy into unstoppable forward momentum. Inside, you will discover the proven steps to: Understand the impact of a loved one's addiction on your own life. Harness your worry, anxiety, and rage as fuel for personal growth. Navigate the emotional chaos without losing yourself. Heal from the heavy load and find a path forward. If you're ready to stop carrying the burden alone and start your journey toward healing, The 8 Paces is your guide. Also, and importantly, realising how this affects us, as many of us have forgotten about ourselves. The 8 Paces will resonate and touch those of us who are feeling overwhelmed and concerned, with the degree of impact varying from hour to hour and day to day. The 8 Paces is structured into a two-part introduction followed by a chapter on each Pace. Each of them begins with one or two true stories about my son and me. The stories are directly related to and aligned with the Pace, and all of them are entertaining. Following the stories is a description of the respective Pace. Aligned statements and quotes are scattered throughout each Pace; they serve to inspire and shift mindsets. The 8 Paces guides us through, flipping insanity to in sanity during turbulent times. Winner of the APAC Insider Australian Enterprise Awards in 2022 and 2024.