Looking Reddish Green

We all wear lenses we don't realize we've put on— lenses tinted by hope, loneliness, fear, and longing. They make red flags look softer. Inconsistency feel like effort. And emotional distance feel like something we should tolerate in the name of love. Looking Reddish Green is a gentle, reflective exploration of how we ignore what we see, excuse what we feel, and convince ourselves that almost-love is enough. Through quiet observations and emotionally honest reflections, Meme Wilder examines the subtle ways people learn to justify bare minimum effort, explain away inconsistency, and remain loyal to connections that quietly drain them. This book is not about blame or bitterness—it's about clarity. About recognizing patterns. About listening to the moments when your heart begins to whisper that something isn't right. Inside these pages, you'll explore themes of: Ignoring red flags and calling them love Emotional exhaustion and self-abandonment Attachment versus compatibility Learning to trust your intuition again Choosing yourself without guilt This is not a book of formulas or quick fixes. It offers no checklists or instructions. Instead, it offers understanding— the kind that comes when the lenses finally crack and you begin to see clearly again. Looking Reddish Green is for anyone who loved deeply, stayed too long, and is now ready to stop painting red as green. Gentle. Honest. Grounded. Your clarity begins here.