Not By Choice Then Whose Choice is it to be Gay?

In this thought-provoking book, Hercules Besterfield examines how deeply rooted influences have shaped society's understanding of what it means to be gay—often leading to bias, discrimination, and division within communities and religious spaces. Readers are guided: Where do these influences originate, and what takes their place? Drawing on his exploration of identity and belief, Besterfield offers insight into how gay individuals come into the world, laying a foundation for a life built on self-acceptance, trust, and happiness. The book also looks ahead, offering perspectives on partnerships, same-sex marriage, adoption, and the realities of lifelong relationships. Addressing matters of faith, Besterfield explores how religious scriptures are often presented in ways that create doubt. He provides a perspective on understanding these scriptures, with a focus on salvation and the possibility of reconciliation between faith and identity. At its heart, this book seeks to strengthen family ties through understanding, ensuring that everyone—including gay children and youth—feels seen, valued, and included in God's Good News.