The Rules I Broke (Before They Broke Me)

At some point, most women realise they have been living by a rulebook they never agreed to. The rules arrive early. Be a good girl. Don't make a fuss. Get married. Put everyone else first. Keep the peace. Suffer in silence. They're rarely spoken aloud, but they shape lives nonetheless. In The Rules I Broke (Before They Broke Me) broadcaster and journalist Ranvir Singh shares the story of what happened when she stopped living by other people's expectations and started listening to herself. For the first time, Ranvir shares the deeply personal experiences that shaped her life: an arranged marriage, the decision to become a single mother while seven months pregnant, the realities of trying to find love again as a single mother working full time and the surprise of finding it in her forties with a man seventeen years younger. Honest, vulnerable and often surprising, her story is one of resilience, reinvention and self-discovery. But this is more than a memoir. Each chapter explores a rule Ranvir was taught to follow - and the consequences of breaking it. Drawing on insights from her own therapeutic journey, she unpacks the beliefs that keep so many women trapped in lives that no longer fit. Alongside her personal stories, she offers practical reflections and tools to help readers examine the rules they've inherited and decide which are worth keeping. Warm, wise and empowering, The Rules I Broke (Before They Broke Me) speaks to every woman who has ever made herself smaller to make others comfortable. Because sometimes the rules that are supposed to protect us are the very things that hold us back.