Your Depression & Me...

A million people all over the world suffer from depression. This psychological illness not only saps the affected person of all their energy, it often paints their world inky black. Despondency, despair, shame and sadness become constant companions – like a horrible, vicious and spiteful black dog. More often than not, as family member, partner, friend or colleague, you find yourself absolutely helpless in the face of this illness. It was the same thing in my case – and still is. Following my wife’s diagnosis, I suddenly found myself facing a challenge that seemed a bit too overwhelming to describe in words. I started to write a kind of journal, which gradually developed into this ‘guide for the loved ones of a person suffering from depression’. What I want to achieve with these words is essentially something selfish: I’m helping myself by going over this whole story. I’ve written down situations and incidents in which her black dog pisses on us and behaves as if it were the driving force in our daily life. I’ve written down how I deal with such situations, how I react to such phases – sometimes badly and sometimes a bit better, sometimes with courage and sometimes without, sometimes out loud and sometimes quietly. And, finally, I’ve made a note of what works, what helps us and me. And what perhaps might also help other people in similar situations. How I can help my wife in giving that wretched cur a piece of her mind and send it back to its little crate. And how amidst all this I try to stay positive and cheerful, to celebrate the here and now. The suggestions given by me here are not based on professional medical knowledge. I’m not a psychologist, physician, or shaman. I’m a companion who wishes to share his experiences and insights with other companions. I hope with all my heart that I’m able to help you (and your loved one) a little with this small book. Keep on walking! Daniel