Dear Black Woman: He Is Not Yours to Fix

You've been carrying weight that was never yours. Planning dates he should initiate. Managing emotions he should regulate. Funding dreams while your own collect dust. Waiting for him to change while you slowly disappear. Deep down, you know the truth: you can't fix him. But stopping? That feels impossible. This book is your permission slip to finally let go. Dear Black Woman: He Is Not Yours to Fix is a compassionate, unflinching guide for Black women who've spent too long being the mechanic in relationships that should have ended, the therapist for men who won't go to therapy, and the architect of futures that will never materialize. It dismantles the myth of the Strong Black Woman, exposes the cultural, generational, and spiritual roots of the fixing pattern, and gives you a clear roadmap to reclaim your life, your worth, and your peace. Inside, you'll discover how to: Stop confusing endurance with love. See the real cost of carrying his wounds—financially, emotionally, spiritually. Break free from the savior complex that keeps you chained to men who can't love you right. Set boundaries with family and partners without guilt. Recognize green flags, never ignore red flags again. Rebuild your life with a practical 90-day plan, plus journal prompts, exercises, and affirmations woven through each chapter. Date again from your healed self—so the patterns never repeat. This book is for the woman who knows she deserves better but doesn't yet know how to choose it. For the woman who is tired of carrying the world on her shoulders while her own dreams wait. For the woman ready to finally stop sacrificing herself on the altar of his potential. You were never behind. You never failed. You were just loving from your wounds instead of your wholeness. It's time to choose differently. It's time to live for yourself. He is not yours to fix. And that's exactly how it should be.