Too Much

Someone says one wrong thing, and the next nine hours are gone. If you have ever replayed a six-second exchange for six hours, drafted apologies for crimes that may not have happened, or felt the strange certainty, not a thought, a certainty, that a single sigh, a flat tone, or a six-hour text delay means you have just been seen for who you really are and that the person who saw you is now done with you, this book was written for you. The clinical name is rejection-sensitive dysphoria, or RSD. It was first described in the ADHD literature by Dr. William Dodson and is now recognized across autism, anxious-attachment, complex-trauma, and highly-sensitive-person populations. Somewhere between ninety and ninety-eight percent of adults with ADHD report it, and the rate among adults with autism is similarly high. Most of them have lived their entire adult lives around the architecture of a single feeling without ever being handed the term. Robert Smith, author of Burnt, The Iron Mind, Regulated, and The Awakened Nervous System, has written the field guide the clinical workbooks fail to be: warm, literary, specific, and built for the adult who suspects they have this, has never been formally diagnosed, and needs something they can actually use at 11 p.m. on a Tuesday. You will learn: - What RSD actually is, the neurology, the cascade, and the one-to-three-second physical sting that precedes it - Why the cognitive approach fails above the window of tolerance, and the somatic interrupts that do not - The ninety-second pause that interrupts the cascade before it fully launches - The two-column truth test that separates the trigger from the catastrophic story - The solo repair script, exiting the loop without compulsive checking, apologizing, or seeking reassurance - The disclosure sentence for partners, friends, and coworkers, disclosure without a clinical lecture - How to choose friendships, workplaces, and partnerships that do not constantly detonate the cascade - How to parent without passing the wiring down by accident Fifteen chapters, fifteen specific, time-bounded protocols. Direct, literary, unsentimental. The book for the mind that has been working too hard for too long. If you have always been told you were too sensitive, too dramatic, too quick to take things personally, this is the book that finally names what was actually happening, and gives you the skills to live differently inside the same wiring.