Hating Women

A brutally honest confessional that reckons with the darkest parts of the male psyche and provides a framework for men to heal themselves and their relationships. When Sean Hotchkiss watched his father spiral after his second divorce and jump off a thirty-six-story bridge, the cause of his suicide to Sean, even at twenty-two, was clear: his father couldn’t live without a woman. And following his father’s death, Sean vowed to never find himself in the same position. He’d never be alone. Women became Sean’s compass. It was the way he clocked if he was doing okay in the world: if women liked him, desired him, wanted to sleep with him, all was well. And he dated and slept with as many women as possible in the coming years, running away from himself and his pain. Then, in 2015, he hit rock bottom after a brutal breakup. Like his father before him, he became depressed and finally, suicidal. It was the beginning of a decade-long odyssey towards healing. A candid and vulnerable memoir, Hating Women is a book for men who—much as they try their best—find themselves in the same dead-end relationships again and again: fleeing from one hookup to the next, chasing unavailable women, or stuck in stalemates with long-term partners resulting in constant fighting, resentment, and betrayal. By detailing the connection between his toxic experiences with women and suppressed rage, Hotchkiss offers a roadmap out. This is a book about men healing the broken bonds with other men and with their own masculinity: it is a story of initiation, and the inevitable trials and reconciliations that each man must go through to reconnect with his own innate vulnerability, and to begin living more aligned with his core values, including loving and honoring the women in his life.