Why Are We Yelling by Buster Benson

This audiobook is narrated by a digital voice. Why Are We Yelling? by Buster Benson Audiobook Summary: Tired of arguments that escalate, go in circles, and leave everyone feeling frustrated? Buster Benson's "Why Are We Yelling?" provides a compelling roadmap for transforming these unproductive confrontations into opportunities for genuine understanding, connection, and even growth. This insightful guide challenges the common perception that all arguments are negative, suggesting instead that disagreements are inevitable and, when approached correctly, can be incredibly valuable. The core premise is that we can learn the art of productive disagreement. Benson delves into the underlying reasons why discussions so often derail. A key insight is the role of anxiety in fueling conflict. He explains that when our deeply held beliefs or perspectives are challenged, it triggers anxiety. These anxieties can revolve around different realms: the "head" (what is true and factual), the "heart" (what is meaningful and important on a personal level), and the "hands" (what is useful and practical). Recognizing which realm a disagreement primarily occupies can significantly shift how we engage with it. The book encourages readers to become more aware of their internal "voices" that dictate reactions during conflict. These include the voice of power (seeking to win or dominate), the voice of reason (insisting on logic and evidence above all), the voice of avoidance (shying away from conflict altogether), and, most importantly, the voice of possibility. Cultivating this voice of possibility allows individuals to approach disagreements with curiosity, seeking to understand rather than to simply win or shut down the other person.