So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex

Renowned sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author Ian Kerner shares the unique and indispensable program he uses to help thousands of couples achieve more intimacy and better sex. Dr. Ian Kerner is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of their sexual distress. His secret weapon? Informed curiosity. Kerner has perfected the art of the “sex script analysis,” a method of inquiry to examine your sex life in action moment by moment. In those details—the what, where, when, and why of your last sexual experience—all the clues of what went wrong are laid bare and the mystery of how to create mutual pleasure can be solved. When our sex scripts work, we let go into arousal and lose ourselves in pleasure. But when the sex script fails, it’s all we can do not to ruminate over the details. Sometimes you can be lying in bed right next to someone and feel a million miles apart. In those moments of silent desperation, the sex script is our guide to everything happening between the sheets and beneath the surface. With wit and warmth, the nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First uses his tried and true techniques and tools to show readers how to tap into their erotic personalities and realize their sexual potential. He’ll help you figure out what’s working and what’s not in your sex script and discuss many common sexual problems, from low desire and mismatched libidos to male and female sexual function issues, that may be interfering with your sex life. With the help of decades of clinical insight, the latest sexual science and research, valuable homework assignments, and more, this insightful and original book strips away discomfort and gives readers the ability to not just talk about sex openly and knowingly, but to actually do something about it.